08 January 2007

Reclaiming friendship

We may consider many people friends - colleagues in the office, party acquaintances, old classmates, or church members whose hands we shake every week. But there are friends, and there are friends.

We sometimes say someone is a 'true friend' because he or she was there for us when we truly needed someone, when he or she helped us or showed love and understanding when nothing was to be gained.

Nouwen defines friendship thus:
Friendship is being with the other in joy and sorrow, even when we cannot increase the joy or decrease the sorrow. It is a unity of souls that gives nobility and sincerity to love. Friendship makes all of life shine brightly. Blessed are those who lay down their lives for their friends.

It makes me think - what kind of friend am I to others? Real friendship has a very covenantal flavour. When I call someone friend, or think of myself as a friend to anyone, I should in essence be binding myself to him or her. I am saying to another - I am here for you and I seek your highest good. Friendship goes deeper than offering help, occasional smiles or advice. It is a promise lived out in every day life. Redefining friendship in this way imbues it with real meaning and makes me more human.



Emmie Johnson said...

True indeed..u can call even ur acquaintances as ur friens but u count on only a few TRUE FRIENDS

Robert said...

U r right! Friends come and they go..but precious are those who sees your first tear, holds the second and makes sure the third doesn't come out...and it's us who have to select them...I enjoyed browsing through your site and hope u too will feel the same as u drop by my blog!

jessica said...

Of all the definition you gave of friendship I like this definition of yours "It is a promise lived out in every day life. " the most.....it's so true. Value of friendship is often valued less than it should be. You are truly a great friend for the way you see it. Do drop by my blog friend, coz am sure you'd love your visit.